Sunday, November 14, 2010
2nd ANNIVESARY!
ya. it's our second year annivesary! i hope there will be 3rd...4th...5th...and so on... (: congratulations to us! mwahss~ I LOVE YOU ! ! ! will be uploading some of our pictures very soon~ :)
Thursday, September 16, 2010
hurt so bad...T.T
dear...you hurt me le...:-(..i dono why when saw you said that i dint show you that i really care about you love you...:-(its too hurt for me le...:-(i cannot control my tears...i dono why...:-(
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
hais..
i am afraid that someday i would break up with you just because of that i cant make it to go out with you so often even it is your birthday. :'( i feel so sorry for not giving you anything you want especially on your birthday.. I wish to be with you on the day but i cant make it.. T.T my parents.. It's a long long story.. :( i really upset that i always fail to fulfil your wishes.. I want you to be happy but i have no right to make decision by myself.. :'( pleare forgive me as i am not purposely reject to date with you..T.T i am sorry sorry sorry...my dear.. I hope that there will be changes in our future..we may have the opportunity to make our days more memorable..i love you sweetheart..muacks...
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
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I HATE YOU, THE SPRING!
it hurts me a lot when i heard that my cousins were discussing about two of us. they saw us quarreling at the spring and they did not know what had actually happened. ): and they spread the news all over the place wherever my family members are. hmmph! i din care about what they said but when i overheard it, i was getting upset~ T.T we had quarrel whenever we were in the spring building. i know that i cant cover their mouth and even shut their mouth up but i was probably in tears when they told my mum that her daughter had became so famous as if they had been posting something up to the public! T.T i hope that they were just joking...... i don wanna quarrel with you anymore....
it hurts me a lot when i heard that my cousins were discussing about two of us. they saw us quarreling at the spring and they did not know what had actually happened. ): and they spread the news all over the place wherever my family members are. hmmph! i din care about what they said but when i overheard it, i was getting upset~ T.T we had quarrel whenever we were in the spring building. i know that i cant cover their mouth and even shut their mouth up but i was probably in tears when they told my mum that her daughter had became so famous as if they had been posting something up to the public! T.T i hope that they were just joking...... i don wanna quarrel with you anymore....
Monday, August 16, 2010
怎样才能当一名『好男友』呢? dear, i just want to share with you har, :P
怎样才能当一名『好男友』呢?
如何当一名好男友?这确实是个世界性的难题。但当你还未成年的话,难度还会更大一些——难以控制的荷尔蒙,少得可怜的恋爱经历。没关系,"我相信,我能!"
【行为准则】
1.女生并不喜欢那些用谎言来博取芳心的家伙。所以,讲真话,你也不必担心谎言被戳穿。
2.拿出你的男子气概来,爱护她,但别过火。
3.请与她的女友们保持良好关系,但别看起来像是在调情,这会让你女友很伤心的。
4.请尊敬她的男性朋友。如果她说他们只是朋友关系,相信她。如果你有充足的证据,这就得另当别论了。
5.当你朋友的面请善待她,别忽视她。请记住,女生们同样需要一起出去鬼混。别吃醋哦!
6.接她的电话。别去抱怨她打扰了你的美梦。
7.经常恭维她一下,以显示你对她还很有兴趣。这会让她很有安全感。
8.如果她精心打扮了,那请告诉她看上去很漂亮。如果没有,那么她长得很漂亮。
9.确保她每时每刻都很开心。当她悲伤时,使她开心,除非她的确需要难过一会儿。
10.别让她吃醋。小心被甩。
11.别太较真,女生们总喜欢认为自己是对的。
12.送她花,但记住她不可能整天带着那束花跑。不仅仅是花,你要弄清楚她真正的最爱。
13.浪漫一些,但别老套。
14.别打架。她们不会因此认为你是保护者,相反,是侵略者。
15.别告诉她你认为XX女生很靓,即使这话题是她故意提的。
16.她喜欢玩你的头发就随她吧。
17.别吃她前任的醋。她现在是在和你拍拖,不是和他们。当然,你也别去吹你的前任有多棒,除非你想借此暗示她更出色,但即使这样,还是小心为妙。
18.永远别让她当众出丑。
19.在性的方面别向她施加压力。
【行为准则-外篇】
1.不要去嘲笑她的衣服,为此她已经够难受的了。
2.别说她很胖,告诉她你喜欢她的曲线美。
3.别斥她把屁股挪开,如果你觉得腿已经麻了的话,请她换一下重心。
4.听些她喜欢的音乐——虽然那简直就不是人听的。
5.倾听——即使那些话题无聊透顶。
6.别口无遮拦。世上也没有后悔药。
7.别让你的朋友和她过不去,维护她,即使是在开玩笑。
8.关于性,"不行"就是不行,不管你怎样认为。
9.别向她借钱,更别让她付餐费。记住你是绅士,而不是"伸士"。
10.找些共同爱好,别让感情成为你们的羁绊。
11.告诉她你已想了她一整天。
12.当她失落时,亲吻她的前额,说句"我爱你",这会让她很开心的。
【提示】
不要轻易说爱,除非你是认真的。
做你自己。你的伪装根本就逃不过她的法眼。
己所不欲,勿施于人。
保护她。
告诉她,你不想失去她。
她发火时,请冷静些。
如果她的手总是"不小心"碰到你,勇敢地去牵她的手吧。
有些女生喜欢被夸作"漂亮",有些"性感",先问问她的喜好。或者,夸她很"可爱"——这是普遍适用的。
当她难过时,别埋在你自己的事情里,也去安慰她一下吧?
如果她有点冷,借她你的外套。或者,紧紧地拥抱她。
当她失落时,喊她的爱称。
请为她留一些时间。
让她知道她很重要。
诚实地弥补那些对她做的傻事吧。
尽管向她倾吐你的那些囧事吧,她不会因此甩你的。
忠诚。如果提到前任,告诉她那些已是过去,现在她才是你的唯一。
如果有人向她调情,别叫嚣"我要把他给剁了",一句"我不想怪他"("谁叫你长得那么可爱~")足矣。
初次约会也许会接吻,别搞怪。她可能会有些不知所措,因为那或许就是她的初吻。所以,如果她的吻技很糟,就别抱怨了。
如果她很饿,就请她大吃一顿吧。
如果她不小心放了气,微笑一下,乘机抱抱她吧。
告诉她你的父母很喜欢她。父母喜欢对方总是件好事。
确保她开心,如果看起来有些不大对劲,拥抱,让她向你一吐为快。
告诉她她是对的。
读些此类文章,并且知道女生喜欢怎样的男生。
【警告】
别害怕当众接吻,但要小心师长。
别说谎,别花心。
别恼人,更别纠缠不休。
不要弄得像被人扁过似的,小心被她抓住小辫子。
每天刷两次牙,嚼些薄荷糖、口香糖,保持口气清新。
如果她脸上不幸出了疹子,别笑,告诉她,你爱她的不只是外表。
自信,这就是魅力。
有些女生对性并没有足够的准备,即使口头上说行。关键时候掉链子的话,与她好好谈谈。
(最后能否搞定,就看你的口才啦!
如何当一名好男友?这确实是个世界性的难题。但当你还未成年的话,难度还会更大一些——难以控制的荷尔蒙,少得可怜的恋爱经历。没关系,"我相信,我能!"
【行为准则】
1.女生并不喜欢那些用谎言来博取芳心的家伙。所以,讲真话,你也不必担心谎言被戳穿。
2.拿出你的男子气概来,爱护她,但别过火。
3.请与她的女友们保持良好关系,但别看起来像是在调情,这会让你女友很伤心的。
4.请尊敬她的男性朋友。如果她说他们只是朋友关系,相信她。如果你有充足的证据,这就得另当别论了。
5.当你朋友的面请善待她,别忽视她。请记住,女生们同样需要一起出去鬼混。别吃醋哦!
6.接她的电话。别去抱怨她打扰了你的美梦。
7.经常恭维她一下,以显示你对她还很有兴趣。这会让她很有安全感。
8.如果她精心打扮了,那请告诉她看上去很漂亮。如果没有,那么她长得很漂亮。
9.确保她每时每刻都很开心。当她悲伤时,使她开心,除非她的确需要难过一会儿。
10.别让她吃醋。小心被甩。
11.别太较真,女生们总喜欢认为自己是对的。
12.送她花,但记住她不可能整天带着那束花跑。不仅仅是花,你要弄清楚她真正的最爱。
13.浪漫一些,但别老套。
14.别打架。她们不会因此认为你是保护者,相反,是侵略者。
15.别告诉她你认为XX女生很靓,即使这话题是她故意提的。
16.她喜欢玩你的头发就随她吧。
17.别吃她前任的醋。她现在是在和你拍拖,不是和他们。当然,你也别去吹你的前任有多棒,除非你想借此暗示她更出色,但即使这样,还是小心为妙。
18.永远别让她当众出丑。
19.在性的方面别向她施加压力。
【行为准则-外篇】
1.不要去嘲笑她的衣服,为此她已经够难受的了。
2.别说她很胖,告诉她你喜欢她的曲线美。
3.别斥她把屁股挪开,如果你觉得腿已经麻了的话,请她换一下重心。
4.听些她喜欢的音乐——虽然那简直就不是人听的。
5.倾听——即使那些话题无聊透顶。
6.别口无遮拦。世上也没有后悔药。
7.别让你的朋友和她过不去,维护她,即使是在开玩笑。
8.关于性,"不行"就是不行,不管你怎样认为。
9.别向她借钱,更别让她付餐费。记住你是绅士,而不是"伸士"。
10.找些共同爱好,别让感情成为你们的羁绊。
11.告诉她你已想了她一整天。
12.当她失落时,亲吻她的前额,说句"我爱你",这会让她很开心的。
【提示】
不要轻易说爱,除非你是认真的。
做你自己。你的伪装根本就逃不过她的法眼。
己所不欲,勿施于人。
保护她。
告诉她,你不想失去她。
她发火时,请冷静些。
如果她的手总是"不小心"碰到你,勇敢地去牵她的手吧。
有些女生喜欢被夸作"漂亮",有些"性感",先问问她的喜好。或者,夸她很"可爱"——这是普遍适用的。
当她难过时,别埋在你自己的事情里,也去安慰她一下吧?
如果她有点冷,借她你的外套。或者,紧紧地拥抱她。
当她失落时,喊她的爱称。
请为她留一些时间。
让她知道她很重要。
诚实地弥补那些对她做的傻事吧。
尽管向她倾吐你的那些囧事吧,她不会因此甩你的。
忠诚。如果提到前任,告诉她那些已是过去,现在她才是你的唯一。
如果有人向她调情,别叫嚣"我要把他给剁了",一句"我不想怪他"("谁叫你长得那么可爱~")足矣。
初次约会也许会接吻,别搞怪。她可能会有些不知所措,因为那或许就是她的初吻。所以,如果她的吻技很糟,就别抱怨了。
如果她很饿,就请她大吃一顿吧。
如果她不小心放了气,微笑一下,乘机抱抱她吧。
告诉她你的父母很喜欢她。父母喜欢对方总是件好事。
确保她开心,如果看起来有些不大对劲,拥抱,让她向你一吐为快。
告诉她她是对的。
读些此类文章,并且知道女生喜欢怎样的男生。
【警告】
别害怕当众接吻,但要小心师长。
别说谎,别花心。
别恼人,更别纠缠不休。
不要弄得像被人扁过似的,小心被她抓住小辫子。
每天刷两次牙,嚼些薄荷糖、口香糖,保持口气清新。
如果她脸上不幸出了疹子,别笑,告诉她,你爱她的不只是外表。
自信,这就是魅力。
有些女生对性并没有足够的准备,即使口头上说行。关键时候掉链子的话,与她好好谈谈。
(最后能否搞定,就看你的口才啦!
幸福,是怎样的呢??
幸福,是怎样的呢??
幸福,就是找一个温暖的人过一辈子。
今天,我突然很想告诉世界上所有的人,珍惜吧,珍惜爱你的人,珍惜在你身边一直保护你,一直把你当宝贝的人。那个人真的很珍贵。他在你身边的时候,你并不知道你真的那么爱他,甚至以为自己得到的爱护都是理所应当的,很少意识到他的重要,有时候和他任性和他发脾气,有时候会觉得疲倦,有时候会觉得缺少激情,但当你再没有他在你身边唠叨,没有人管你,没有人在乎你的病痛时,突然发现,失去了,那个自己其实一直最爱的人。爱是一场长久的拉锯战,从我们相识到相知,然后是相恋的一路上,就摆下一场战线很长的拉锯战。两个20年甚至更长时间毫无交集的人在一起,难免会争吵,会有分歧。我们本不是一体,只是因为爱而在一起,然后爱其实并不能就解决了所有的问题。因为我们的个性都太强了,更爱的其实是自己,所以,总是争执个不停,总是在和对方吵闹之后,发现自己的任性,却又免不了下一次的任性。
如果这个世界上有卖后悔药的,我相信每个人都希望拥有,就可以在每次吵架、冷战之后吃上一颗药,就全部忘掉,重新开始了。真可惜,没有这种药,而且就算有,总吃后悔药也会产生抗药性,每一次的争吵留下一点伤害,积少成多,就会成为你的负担和他的烦恼。谁都不会把一次小小的争吵记在心上,但是两次三次呢?很多次呢?所有的争吵到最后都化为委屈,总有一日,会爆发。
我们每个人都爱过,我相信都是很认真的,也许有的失去了很久,但是至今想起,还是会隐隐的作痛吧。因为曾经他留给你的和他最后从你身边带走的竟然一样多,出奇的公平。没有谁欠谁,只是当初都不知道珍惜。也许你会说,上次是我没珍惜,这次我一定做好,一定珍惜!但是怎样珍惜?
你的爱人,你要用心的去体会,去明白他的心,去思考他到底需要的是什么,在你思考他需要什么的时候,你已经得到了他的尊重。你的爱人,你要用心去保护,不要因为他比你强或者是个大男人,就以为你保护不了他,你的爱比任何鼓励都要壮大,你足以保护你爱的人。你的爱人,你要用心的去珍惜他,他为你做的一点一滴,不仅仅感谢他,要记在心里,常常的去想想他。能为了爱你放下面子去忍耐你的坏脾气,去习惯你和他完全不一样的习惯,去照顾你的时间和规律,都是他因为爱所付出的。 在你发脾气之前,请先吸气,深呼吸5次,然后再长长的吐气5次。然后再说话。当你对他有意见有问题的时候,不妨写信告诉他,相信你在写信的过程中,自己已经先平和了,本来郁闷的心情已经得到了缓解。有时候可能写完信自己就已经不再生气了。因为写信需要措辞需要想,先就让你平静了。这样用信来沟通,少了言语的冲突,多了一些沟通,会让你们之间的问题用最理智的方式得到解决,再不会以争吵或冷战来代替。
在你委屈的时候不妨直接告诉他你的想法,让他知道你真实的想法,你其实想这样做,你其实需要他怎样做。不要总让他猜你的心思,因为你的心思其实真的很难猜。并不是所有爱的人之间都有那种互通的第六感。如果他猜不到你的心思也不要生气,因为其实你也不知道他猜你的心思用了多长时间浪费了多少的脑细胞。
你难过的时候不妨先把你的心事告诉他,也许他也没有什么好办法,但起码你爱的人一定会给你安慰。有时候他会很直接的告诉你错了,也不要生气,他是为了你好,他只是站在旁观的角度上给你一个指导,等你冷静下来后也许你会觉得他的办法很好,就算不可行也要体谅他的心思。反过来,发现他有些微的不对的时候就要关心他,注意他的眉头,注意他的心情。去理解他,就算理解不了也试图去了解吧。
在你下决定前不妨告诉他你的决定,这是尊重他的表现。可能他会不赞同,但肯定会为了你的尊重而欣慰。如果要是正好也赞同,恭喜你,又将你们的幸福推进了些。而当他做决定的时候,不要过多的干预,给他尽可能多的空间。相信我,虽然你们相爱,但还是完整的个体,所以让他自己决定吧。就算你不赞同,也不要在他一脸兴奋的时候告诉他,鼓励他吧!之后再委婉的给他一些意见.在面临苦难的时候不要小看你的爱人的能力,也不要因为自己的郁闷而迁罪于他。他也不容易,他和你一样面临着困难,他还要照顾你的想法,其实他更难。跟他一起努力吧,相信你们一起什么都能解决。更不要独自去面对困难,因为没有人希望自己的爱人单独面对艰难,可以一起度过艰难与一起享受幸福是一样的重要,不管面对什么,相信要两个人在一起。
在你觉得你们的爱没有激情的时候,不妨先检讨一下自己,你为了你们做了什么?现在的乏味是不是也有你的原因?你有多久没有送他小礼物了?你有多久没有不为任何原因亲他一下了?你有多久没有和他聊天、谈心了?你有多久没有请他去吃饭或者看电影了?不要总觉得他不够爱你,没有以前细心,爱也会成熟,爱也会长大,一成不变的爱情不存在。不要太计较,不要总是算计。
在你面临诱惑的时候不妨先静下来想想你和他的从前。曾经的他也对你充满的诱惑和吸引力。只不过现在激情退去了。任何人都不能永远的激情下去,任何感情都不能一直轰烈下去。你现在面对的诱惑总有一天也会归为平静。就像你和现在的爱人一样。而且,如果是你的爱人面临这样的诱惑,你希望他会怎样做?就照你希望他做的去做自己吧。 记得,凡事先要深呼吸,不要急,不要激动,两个人的事情,两个人去处理。
我们出生到现在,其实从没真正学过怎样去爱,都是一点一滴的从现实和经验摸爬滚打的体会着爱的意义,我写这些真的不是为了标榜自己,其实我也是个不懂爱的孩子,其实我是想告诉现在身边有着幸福并且在幸福着的兄弟姐妹们,珍惜、保护、心疼你的爱人,在你没有失去他之前。也告诉那些正在寻找自己的幸福并且走在寻找的路上的兄弟姐妹们,找到之后,一定要珍惜、保护、心疼你的爱人,在你没有失去他之前......❤
幸福,就是找一个温暖的人过一辈子。
今天,我突然很想告诉世界上所有的人,珍惜吧,珍惜爱你的人,珍惜在你身边一直保护你,一直把你当宝贝的人。那个人真的很珍贵。他在你身边的时候,你并不知道你真的那么爱他,甚至以为自己得到的爱护都是理所应当的,很少意识到他的重要,有时候和他任性和他发脾气,有时候会觉得疲倦,有时候会觉得缺少激情,但当你再没有他在你身边唠叨,没有人管你,没有人在乎你的病痛时,突然发现,失去了,那个自己其实一直最爱的人。爱是一场长久的拉锯战,从我们相识到相知,然后是相恋的一路上,就摆下一场战线很长的拉锯战。两个20年甚至更长时间毫无交集的人在一起,难免会争吵,会有分歧。我们本不是一体,只是因为爱而在一起,然后爱其实并不能就解决了所有的问题。因为我们的个性都太强了,更爱的其实是自己,所以,总是争执个不停,总是在和对方吵闹之后,发现自己的任性,却又免不了下一次的任性。
如果这个世界上有卖后悔药的,我相信每个人都希望拥有,就可以在每次吵架、冷战之后吃上一颗药,就全部忘掉,重新开始了。真可惜,没有这种药,而且就算有,总吃后悔药也会产生抗药性,每一次的争吵留下一点伤害,积少成多,就会成为你的负担和他的烦恼。谁都不会把一次小小的争吵记在心上,但是两次三次呢?很多次呢?所有的争吵到最后都化为委屈,总有一日,会爆发。
我们每个人都爱过,我相信都是很认真的,也许有的失去了很久,但是至今想起,还是会隐隐的作痛吧。因为曾经他留给你的和他最后从你身边带走的竟然一样多,出奇的公平。没有谁欠谁,只是当初都不知道珍惜。也许你会说,上次是我没珍惜,这次我一定做好,一定珍惜!但是怎样珍惜?
你的爱人,你要用心的去体会,去明白他的心,去思考他到底需要的是什么,在你思考他需要什么的时候,你已经得到了他的尊重。你的爱人,你要用心去保护,不要因为他比你强或者是个大男人,就以为你保护不了他,你的爱比任何鼓励都要壮大,你足以保护你爱的人。你的爱人,你要用心的去珍惜他,他为你做的一点一滴,不仅仅感谢他,要记在心里,常常的去想想他。能为了爱你放下面子去忍耐你的坏脾气,去习惯你和他完全不一样的习惯,去照顾你的时间和规律,都是他因为爱所付出的。 在你发脾气之前,请先吸气,深呼吸5次,然后再长长的吐气5次。然后再说话。当你对他有意见有问题的时候,不妨写信告诉他,相信你在写信的过程中,自己已经先平和了,本来郁闷的心情已经得到了缓解。有时候可能写完信自己就已经不再生气了。因为写信需要措辞需要想,先就让你平静了。这样用信来沟通,少了言语的冲突,多了一些沟通,会让你们之间的问题用最理智的方式得到解决,再不会以争吵或冷战来代替。
在你委屈的时候不妨直接告诉他你的想法,让他知道你真实的想法,你其实想这样做,你其实需要他怎样做。不要总让他猜你的心思,因为你的心思其实真的很难猜。并不是所有爱的人之间都有那种互通的第六感。如果他猜不到你的心思也不要生气,因为其实你也不知道他猜你的心思用了多长时间浪费了多少的脑细胞。
你难过的时候不妨先把你的心事告诉他,也许他也没有什么好办法,但起码你爱的人一定会给你安慰。有时候他会很直接的告诉你错了,也不要生气,他是为了你好,他只是站在旁观的角度上给你一个指导,等你冷静下来后也许你会觉得他的办法很好,就算不可行也要体谅他的心思。反过来,发现他有些微的不对的时候就要关心他,注意他的眉头,注意他的心情。去理解他,就算理解不了也试图去了解吧。
在你下决定前不妨告诉他你的决定,这是尊重他的表现。可能他会不赞同,但肯定会为了你的尊重而欣慰。如果要是正好也赞同,恭喜你,又将你们的幸福推进了些。而当他做决定的时候,不要过多的干预,给他尽可能多的空间。相信我,虽然你们相爱,但还是完整的个体,所以让他自己决定吧。就算你不赞同,也不要在他一脸兴奋的时候告诉他,鼓励他吧!之后再委婉的给他一些意见.在面临苦难的时候不要小看你的爱人的能力,也不要因为自己的郁闷而迁罪于他。他也不容易,他和你一样面临着困难,他还要照顾你的想法,其实他更难。跟他一起努力吧,相信你们一起什么都能解决。更不要独自去面对困难,因为没有人希望自己的爱人单独面对艰难,可以一起度过艰难与一起享受幸福是一样的重要,不管面对什么,相信要两个人在一起。
在你觉得你们的爱没有激情的时候,不妨先检讨一下自己,你为了你们做了什么?现在的乏味是不是也有你的原因?你有多久没有送他小礼物了?你有多久没有不为任何原因亲他一下了?你有多久没有和他聊天、谈心了?你有多久没有请他去吃饭或者看电影了?不要总觉得他不够爱你,没有以前细心,爱也会成熟,爱也会长大,一成不变的爱情不存在。不要太计较,不要总是算计。
在你面临诱惑的时候不妨先静下来想想你和他的从前。曾经的他也对你充满的诱惑和吸引力。只不过现在激情退去了。任何人都不能永远的激情下去,任何感情都不能一直轰烈下去。你现在面对的诱惑总有一天也会归为平静。就像你和现在的爱人一样。而且,如果是你的爱人面临这样的诱惑,你希望他会怎样做?就照你希望他做的去做自己吧。 记得,凡事先要深呼吸,不要急,不要激动,两个人的事情,两个人去处理。
我们出生到现在,其实从没真正学过怎样去爱,都是一点一滴的从现实和经验摸爬滚打的体会着爱的意义,我写这些真的不是为了标榜自己,其实我也是个不懂爱的孩子,其实我是想告诉现在身边有着幸福并且在幸福着的兄弟姐妹们,珍惜、保护、心疼你的爱人,在你没有失去他之前。也告诉那些正在寻找自己的幸福并且走在寻找的路上的兄弟姐妹们,找到之后,一定要珍惜、保护、心疼你的爱人,在你没有失去他之前......❤
❤学会正确的【恋爱方式】❤
❤学会正确的【恋爱方式】❤
一段感情的成功与否,不是看是否还牵手,而是由感情品质而定,很多时候牵手不代表成功,分手不代表失败。关键是看在这段感情中你是否完成了两件重要的恋爱心理任务。你是否更了解自己的需求,你是否已学会疼爱别人。
爱的反面不应该是恨,而应该是淡忘;那为什么有些人的爱会变成恨,而不能成为淡忘呢,那是因为他在爱里面,缺乏了自信......
在恋爱中我们需要完成两项重要的心理任务:
一、要更了解自己。除自我认知概念外,让两性恋爱中的自己更完整清晰地呈现出来。
二、培养我们爱人的能力。从自小习惯被爱开始学会爱人。
看一个男人是不是好男人有三个基准:负责、尊重和稳定。
负责意味着他能对自己所说过的话负责。
尊重则是指,他能够尊重自己的另一半,就是我们通常所说的,你和他之间建立的是"伙伴式关系",你们相处的方式是平等的。
另外,他还要是一个情绪稳定的人。有些人情绪容易大起大落,这样的人是很难维持一段长久的关系的。
上面说的只是好男人的基准。如果我们把条件再抬高成精品男人的话,还可以归纳出所谓"三心二意"的基准。
首先第一个心是开心。他自己应该是一个开朗的人,这会让和他一起相处的人也感到心情愉快。
第二个心是关心。关心意味着体贴,这是所有女生都很容易理解的。
第三个心是同理心。什么叫同理心?就是设身处地为别人着想的能力。同理心是尊重的来源,也是情侣间解决冲突时最重要的能力。
还有两意。第一个意是诚意。诚意意味着真诚,真诚又是负责的基础。
第二个意是善意,就是要能够用善意的方式去解读情侣的行为。这是很多人在与情侣相处时很难做到的,比如对方不小心迟到时,用恶意的解读方式来理解,就会开始责怪对方,你不在乎我!
有人买了一只不停亏损的股票,就像面对一段无法挽救的婚姻,该不该抛出就跟是否应该离婚一样困扰着他。在事情上所花出去所有的成本,比如耗费的时间、金钱等,当这些成本无法回收时,在心理学上被成为沉默成本。为什么我们不愿意离开一个不健康的婚姻,为什么不愿意放弃一个没有价值的股票,原因是我们不愿意去承认这些沉默成本再也无法回收。
男生在恋爱里的情绪需求有如下几点:
一、自身的能力被肯定。他时常会关心是否有让人瞧得起?
二、才华被欣赏。也许他有些嗜好和才华与其工作完全不干,但你仍需学会喜爱和尊重。
三、努力被感激。他对你以及对这段感情所做的努力需要被感激。
一段感情的成功与否,不是看是否还牵手,而是由感情品质而定,很多时候牵手不代表成功,分手不代表失败。关键是看在这段感情中你是否完成了两件重要的恋爱心理任务。你是否更了解自己的需求,你是否已学会疼爱别人。
爱的反面不应该是恨,而应该是淡忘;那为什么有些人的爱会变成恨,而不能成为淡忘呢,那是因为他在爱里面,缺乏了自信......
在恋爱中我们需要完成两项重要的心理任务:
一、要更了解自己。除自我认知概念外,让两性恋爱中的自己更完整清晰地呈现出来。
二、培养我们爱人的能力。从自小习惯被爱开始学会爱人。
看一个男人是不是好男人有三个基准:负责、尊重和稳定。
负责意味着他能对自己所说过的话负责。
尊重则是指,他能够尊重自己的另一半,就是我们通常所说的,你和他之间建立的是"伙伴式关系",你们相处的方式是平等的。
另外,他还要是一个情绪稳定的人。有些人情绪容易大起大落,这样的人是很难维持一段长久的关系的。
上面说的只是好男人的基准。如果我们把条件再抬高成精品男人的话,还可以归纳出所谓"三心二意"的基准。
首先第一个心是开心。他自己应该是一个开朗的人,这会让和他一起相处的人也感到心情愉快。
第二个心是关心。关心意味着体贴,这是所有女生都很容易理解的。
第三个心是同理心。什么叫同理心?就是设身处地为别人着想的能力。同理心是尊重的来源,也是情侣间解决冲突时最重要的能力。
还有两意。第一个意是诚意。诚意意味着真诚,真诚又是负责的基础。
第二个意是善意,就是要能够用善意的方式去解读情侣的行为。这是很多人在与情侣相处时很难做到的,比如对方不小心迟到时,用恶意的解读方式来理解,就会开始责怪对方,你不在乎我!
有人买了一只不停亏损的股票,就像面对一段无法挽救的婚姻,该不该抛出就跟是否应该离婚一样困扰着他。在事情上所花出去所有的成本,比如耗费的时间、金钱等,当这些成本无法回收时,在心理学上被成为沉默成本。为什么我们不愿意离开一个不健康的婚姻,为什么不愿意放弃一个没有价值的股票,原因是我们不愿意去承认这些沉默成本再也无法回收。
男生在恋爱里的情绪需求有如下几点:
一、自身的能力被肯定。他时常会关心是否有让人瞧得起?
二、才华被欣赏。也许他有些嗜好和才华与其工作完全不干,但你仍需学会喜爱和尊重。
三、努力被感激。他对你以及对这段感情所做的努力需要被感激。
【相遇】不是用来生气的❤
【相遇】不是用来生气的❤
有一天,我坐在回家的公车上,乘客很多。一对上班族男女恰巧站在我身边,吸引了我的目光。
可能因为人多,男孩将手臂围挡在女孩的腰上,怕后面的人挤到了她,并轻声地问“累不累?待会想吃些什么?”
只见女孩不耐烦地回答:“我已经够烦了,吃什么都还不先决定好,每次都要问我。”
男孩一脸无辜的低下头,而后说了一段令我印象深刻的话:“让你决定是因为希望能够陪你吃你喜欢的东西,然后看着你拥有满足的笑容,把今天工作中的不愉快暂时忘掉。你工作上所受的委屈我没法帮你,我所能做的也只有这样。”
女孩听了后,满怀愧疚地说声对不起。男孩这才似乎重燃信心般说:“没关系,和你相遇不是用来生气的,只要你开心就好。”而后亲吻了女孩头发。
公车到站,男孩牵着女孩的手下了车,汽车开动,我再回头看看这对情侣,男孩依旧小心翼翼地保护着女孩。
说得多好呀,“和你相遇,不是用来生气的。”两个人相恋,多么来之不易的缘分,何苦要用生气来抹杀所有的幸福。即使当爱情面临小小的险阻,我们也要心平气和地的对待对方,然后用爱和勇敢去化解,而不是用生气的方式来鲁莽对待。
机息心清,月到风来。有缘千里来相会,无缘对面不相逢。烟雨红尘,茫茫人海,人与人之间,因缘际会,相牵相知。一个缘字,便把远在天涯海角的两个人,紧紧地连接在了一起,从此,绵绵情思,沉沉爱意。人与人在世间的相遇、相恋已是不易,将此看作一场美丽的缘分,用真心来对待,共同叙写一段爱的乐章。
有一段时间,我经常在半夜接到一个朋友的电话,他总是抱怨睡不着,因为有件事一直在纠缠着他:前段时间他认识了一个女朋友,他挺喜欢她,可是随着交往的深入,他心里反而不痛快了,原来他了解到女朋友在认识他之前,曾与另一个男孩子相处了六年。他本来考虑与她结婚,但越想越觉得生气,越想越感到委屈:她曾和别人有过六年啊……
我知道这家伙把自己的思维逼进了一个死角,他也明知道是个死角,可还是一鼓作气、不依不饶地要往里面撞,就像一只扑火的可怜飞蛾,拼了命要在灯光那儿折腾。他知道这是自我折磨,但是他控制不了自己。他每天被这样的念头纠缠,不发疯才怪。
而我能做的就只有倾听,并引导他往积极的一面去想,但要摆脱这种痛苦,还得取决于他自己的意识。
曾看了一本好书,书名叫《生命意味着什么》,是杰出的心理学家阿尔弗雷德•阿德勒所写。他说,我们的烦恼和痛苦都不是因为事情本身,而是因为我们加在这些事情上面的观念。他随后引用了弥尔顿《失乐园》中的一句名言:“意识本身可以把地狱造成天堂,也能把天堂折腾成地狱。”
的确如此,那个深夜打电话给我的朋友,就是在自己意识的作怪之下,用狭隘的思想把美丽的相遇变成了地狱。本来,他找到了一个自己非常喜欢的女朋友,应该很快乐才对,他本该感谢命运给他的恩赐,但他偏不这样想,而是念念不忘她的过去。这无异于给自己的命运打了一个死结。如果他不解脱开来,他永远得不到幸福。
生命本是一场奇异的旅行,遇见谁都是一个美丽的意外,应该珍惜着旅途上每一个与我们同行的有缘人,因为,那是可以让漂泊的心驻足的地方。
古人云:“缘,源自圆,乃命中注定,即缘分。”在亿万年的时光长河中相逢于今生今世,在众生芸芸的红尘人海中际会于此地此处,无论男女老幼,无论贫富美丑,尘缘弥足珍贵,际会足堪珍惜。
台湾作家林清玄也曾说:“有愿才会有缘,如果无愿,即使有缘的人也会擦身错过。缘是天意,份在人为”。无论缘深缘浅,缘长缘短,得到即是造化。人生苦短,缘来不易,我们都应该好好珍惜,并应用宽容与豁达去对待生命的每一个人,每一件事。
有一位禅师就深知其中道理。他非常喜爱兰花,在平日弘法讲经之余,花费了许多的时间栽种兰花。
有一天,他要外去云游一段时间,临行前交代弟子要好好照顾寺里的兰花。
在这段期间,弟子们都很细心照顾着兰花,但有一天在浇水时却不小心将兰花架碰倒了,所有的兰花盆都跌碎了,兰花洒了满地。弟子们都因此非常恐慌,打算等师父回来后,向师傅赔罪领罚。
禅师回来后,闻知此事,便召集弟子们,不但没有责怪,反而说道:“我种兰花,一是希望用来供佛,二也是为了美化寺庙环境,不是为了生气而种兰花的。”
禅师之所以看得开,是因为他虽然喜欢兰花,但心中却无兰花这个碍。因此,兰花的得失,并不影响他心中的喜怒。况且,已然这样,生气也没用,何必还要用生气乱了心情,怀了情绪。
在日常生活中,我们也许就是太在意对方,太在意情感得失,我们害怕失去,而产生情绪高低起伏。仔细想想,生气真的能解决问题吗?还是只能让矛盾更尖锐,更伤害彼此的感情?不如放开心胸,看花开花落。
在和亲爱的人生气之际,我们如能多想想“我不是为了生气而和你相遇的,而是为了一场美丽的相约”,那么就能为我们烦恼的心情辟出另一番安详。当自己快抓不住情绪时,想想这句话,或许会让幸福中多增加一些甜蜜的因子吧!
有一天,我坐在回家的公车上,乘客很多。一对上班族男女恰巧站在我身边,吸引了我的目光。
可能因为人多,男孩将手臂围挡在女孩的腰上,怕后面的人挤到了她,并轻声地问“累不累?待会想吃些什么?”
只见女孩不耐烦地回答:“我已经够烦了,吃什么都还不先决定好,每次都要问我。”
男孩一脸无辜的低下头,而后说了一段令我印象深刻的话:“让你决定是因为希望能够陪你吃你喜欢的东西,然后看着你拥有满足的笑容,把今天工作中的不愉快暂时忘掉。你工作上所受的委屈我没法帮你,我所能做的也只有这样。”
女孩听了后,满怀愧疚地说声对不起。男孩这才似乎重燃信心般说:“没关系,和你相遇不是用来生气的,只要你开心就好。”而后亲吻了女孩头发。
公车到站,男孩牵着女孩的手下了车,汽车开动,我再回头看看这对情侣,男孩依旧小心翼翼地保护着女孩。
说得多好呀,“和你相遇,不是用来生气的。”两个人相恋,多么来之不易的缘分,何苦要用生气来抹杀所有的幸福。即使当爱情面临小小的险阻,我们也要心平气和地的对待对方,然后用爱和勇敢去化解,而不是用生气的方式来鲁莽对待。
机息心清,月到风来。有缘千里来相会,无缘对面不相逢。烟雨红尘,茫茫人海,人与人之间,因缘际会,相牵相知。一个缘字,便把远在天涯海角的两个人,紧紧地连接在了一起,从此,绵绵情思,沉沉爱意。人与人在世间的相遇、相恋已是不易,将此看作一场美丽的缘分,用真心来对待,共同叙写一段爱的乐章。
有一段时间,我经常在半夜接到一个朋友的电话,他总是抱怨睡不着,因为有件事一直在纠缠着他:前段时间他认识了一个女朋友,他挺喜欢她,可是随着交往的深入,他心里反而不痛快了,原来他了解到女朋友在认识他之前,曾与另一个男孩子相处了六年。他本来考虑与她结婚,但越想越觉得生气,越想越感到委屈:她曾和别人有过六年啊……
我知道这家伙把自己的思维逼进了一个死角,他也明知道是个死角,可还是一鼓作气、不依不饶地要往里面撞,就像一只扑火的可怜飞蛾,拼了命要在灯光那儿折腾。他知道这是自我折磨,但是他控制不了自己。他每天被这样的念头纠缠,不发疯才怪。
而我能做的就只有倾听,并引导他往积极的一面去想,但要摆脱这种痛苦,还得取决于他自己的意识。
曾看了一本好书,书名叫《生命意味着什么》,是杰出的心理学家阿尔弗雷德•阿德勒所写。他说,我们的烦恼和痛苦都不是因为事情本身,而是因为我们加在这些事情上面的观念。他随后引用了弥尔顿《失乐园》中的一句名言:“意识本身可以把地狱造成天堂,也能把天堂折腾成地狱。”
的确如此,那个深夜打电话给我的朋友,就是在自己意识的作怪之下,用狭隘的思想把美丽的相遇变成了地狱。本来,他找到了一个自己非常喜欢的女朋友,应该很快乐才对,他本该感谢命运给他的恩赐,但他偏不这样想,而是念念不忘她的过去。这无异于给自己的命运打了一个死结。如果他不解脱开来,他永远得不到幸福。
生命本是一场奇异的旅行,遇见谁都是一个美丽的意外,应该珍惜着旅途上每一个与我们同行的有缘人,因为,那是可以让漂泊的心驻足的地方。
古人云:“缘,源自圆,乃命中注定,即缘分。”在亿万年的时光长河中相逢于今生今世,在众生芸芸的红尘人海中际会于此地此处,无论男女老幼,无论贫富美丑,尘缘弥足珍贵,际会足堪珍惜。
台湾作家林清玄也曾说:“有愿才会有缘,如果无愿,即使有缘的人也会擦身错过。缘是天意,份在人为”。无论缘深缘浅,缘长缘短,得到即是造化。人生苦短,缘来不易,我们都应该好好珍惜,并应用宽容与豁达去对待生命的每一个人,每一件事。
有一位禅师就深知其中道理。他非常喜爱兰花,在平日弘法讲经之余,花费了许多的时间栽种兰花。
有一天,他要外去云游一段时间,临行前交代弟子要好好照顾寺里的兰花。
在这段期间,弟子们都很细心照顾着兰花,但有一天在浇水时却不小心将兰花架碰倒了,所有的兰花盆都跌碎了,兰花洒了满地。弟子们都因此非常恐慌,打算等师父回来后,向师傅赔罪领罚。
禅师回来后,闻知此事,便召集弟子们,不但没有责怪,反而说道:“我种兰花,一是希望用来供佛,二也是为了美化寺庙环境,不是为了生气而种兰花的。”
禅师之所以看得开,是因为他虽然喜欢兰花,但心中却无兰花这个碍。因此,兰花的得失,并不影响他心中的喜怒。况且,已然这样,生气也没用,何必还要用生气乱了心情,怀了情绪。
在日常生活中,我们也许就是太在意对方,太在意情感得失,我们害怕失去,而产生情绪高低起伏。仔细想想,生气真的能解决问题吗?还是只能让矛盾更尖锐,更伤害彼此的感情?不如放开心胸,看花开花落。
在和亲爱的人生气之际,我们如能多想想“我不是为了生气而和你相遇的,而是为了一场美丽的相约”,那么就能为我们烦恼的心情辟出另一番安详。当自己快抓不住情绪时,想想这句话,或许会让幸福中多增加一些甜蜜的因子吧!
14/8/10
It was a saturday night! it was an amazing night ^^
but quite a-bad-half-day >< it was probably a nice day but we both asked for a break-up each. Luckily, we still ended with a smile :) The first time people waited for me outside my place to pick me up to the spring >.< omg damn panic and i was being *a lil* mad that time. We went to SPRING to look for Yee Ting's birthday present. After that, we had a quarrel and he took off our necklace to return it to me, i was so angry! @@ because it was the SECOND TIME!! (first time -> becaue of the shortiness of my skirt..hmm??) that is why i don't like to even step into the *terrible??* building~ I could not stand to keep myself not to smile or even laugh by the roadside, while we having argument of crossing the road -.-'' OMGosh, we were both so lame! hahaha :D He wanted to bring me across the road, i asked him why, the reason he gave me is that the month is *chinese's JULY...JULY...JULYY~* okay? XD and crossing the road is too dangerous in the month of *~~~~*, you know, i know :D i SMILE THEN LAUGH when i heard of the reason given by him........blahh, we both laugh and looked at each other and laugh again.. wahaha! grr~ After few minutes,as i was so hurried to return home, so i just let him BRING ME (sounds like kor kor carry xiao mei mei walk across the road, but cute. :目) we hold hands and rushed across the road to the bus stop opposite....... blahh,nothing more to talk, just craps~~~lalala :) i reached home, he waited me at the bus stop as it is terribly dangerous if my mum *bomb* me, IM SORRY MY DEAR,委屈你了 T.T then ben's mom's car reached......HEAD TO YEE TING'S PLACE---> BBQ
Had a memorable night with them, especially my hubby ^^ .. lalala~ :D MMUUAACKSSS~ just let a meaningful picture speaks..:)
but quite a-bad-half-day >< it was probably a nice day but we both asked for a break-up each. Luckily, we still ended with a smile :) The first time people waited for me outside my place to pick me up to the spring >.< omg damn panic and i was being *a lil* mad that time. We went to SPRING to look for Yee Ting's birthday present. After that, we had a quarrel and he took off our necklace to return it to me, i was so angry! @@ because it was the SECOND TIME!! (first time -> becaue of the shortiness of my skirt..hmm??) that is why i don't like to even step into the *terrible??* building~ I could not stand to keep myself not to smile or even laugh by the roadside, while we having argument of crossing the road -.-'' OMGosh, we were both so lame! hahaha :D He wanted to bring me across the road, i asked him why, the reason he gave me is that the month is *chinese's JULY...JULY...JULYY~* okay? XD and crossing the road is too dangerous in the month of *~~~~*, you know, i know :D i SMILE THEN LAUGH when i heard of the reason given by him........blahh, we both laugh and looked at each other and laugh again.. wahaha! grr~ After few minutes,as i was so hurried to return home, so i just let him BRING ME (sounds like kor kor carry xiao mei mei walk across the road, but cute. :目) we hold hands and rushed across the road to the bus stop opposite....... blahh,nothing more to talk, just craps~~~lalala :) i reached home, he waited me at the bus stop as it is terribly dangerous if my mum *bomb* me, IM SORRY MY DEAR,委屈你了 T.T then ben's mom's car reached......HEAD TO YEE TING'S PLACE---> BBQ
Had a memorable night with them, especially my hubby ^^ .. lalala~ :D MMUUAACKSSS~ just let a meaningful picture speaks..:)

七夕情人节快乐^^
dear..i made a wish between us today...i will live together with you with all my happiness and my life..^^i love you forever my dear..muacks muacks..^.^
Saturday, August 7, 2010
7/8/2010
THE KUCHING FESTIVAL!
you know, i don really like to go somewhere like that.>< but i love the garden because you were there :D Finally, i love the night ! the raining night ! muackss :) we both were walking..running as well in the rain and it was an unforgettable night! it was so awesome you know~ HOOOUUUHHH T_T i COULD NOT forget about the scene that i was hugging you and i cried out loudly (i think it was quite loud X) )heheh~ the warmth of yours <3
Sunday, July 18, 2010
happy but sorry :) )':
first, I'm happy that my darling had just wrote a post on our own blog :)
but the first post of his get me feel so guilty TT.
but the first post of his get me feel so guilty TT.
Friday, July 16, 2010
Monday, July 5, 2010
quarrel again? ):
2 days 23 hours and 55 minutes left... TT
i just wanted to test whether you love me or not..)': it hurts me a lot. but do you know that??maybe my love to you is so far deeper than your love to me. hmmph ):
i expect you to care me more than your limit.. at the moment, i really hope that your message of telling me that you miss me appears on my phone screen right now.. i am waiting for it..TT when are you coming to read our only blog? ): just a hug, a kiss could melt my heart, my tears...... are you the same??...why i never received a sorry from you sincerely right after you talk rudely or yell at me??i just wish to feel secured and being protected my dear...
*i love you*
i just wanted to test whether you love me or not..)': it hurts me a lot. but do you know that??maybe my love to you is so far deeper than your love to me. hmmph ):
i expect you to care me more than your limit.. at the moment, i really hope that your message of telling me that you miss me appears on my phone screen right now.. i am waiting for it..TT when are you coming to read our only blog? ): just a hug, a kiss could melt my heart, my tears...... are you the same??...why i never received a sorry from you sincerely right after you talk rudely or yell at me??i just wish to feel secured and being protected my dear...
*i love you*
Sunday, July 4, 2010
i meant it...
do you love me?
i love you. I meant it.
never stop me to miss you...
it just shows that you don love me that much :(
i love you. I meant it.
never stop me to miss you...
it just shows that you don love me that much :(
Saturday, July 3, 2010
never let go of you!
somebody was looking for you while i was using your facebook account. whoots, she is so brave that she told me :'i love your bf'! wow, i felt so happy that she wanted to snatch away from me :P
.............................................
Maricar:
hi
6:50pmMe:
who is this?
6:50pmMaricar:
maricar and u
6:50pmMe:
?
6:50pmMaricar:
why ...
6:50pmMe:
do i know you?
6:51pmMaricar:
what do u think .....
6:51pmMe:
no ==
you know who m i?
6:52pmMaricar:
andy
6:52pmMe:
sorry, you are wrong ==
6:52pmMaricar:
why im wrong
6:54pmMe:
why do yo wan to look for him?
6:54pmMaricar:
yhap
6:55pmMe:
...
6:56pmMaricar:
why
6:56pmMe:
no why
because im his gf
6:56pmMaricar:
tlg....
6:56pmMe:
?.?
6:57pmMaricar:
why u did understand what im saying
6:58pmMe:
i did
6:59pmMaricar:
u did
6:59pmMe:
yes i did
6:59pmMaricar:
what did u mean u no
6:59pmMe:
yes, i know what did i mean
-.-
6:59pmMaricar:
really
7:00pmMe:
...
7:00pmMaricar:
i love your bf
7:01pmMe:
aww thanks for loving him
as a friend
7:01pmMaricar:
no
7:03pmMe:
-.-''
..............................................
wahaha! i love it! the conversation :P i felt so glad.teehee* you can love him as a friend(being forced), but never tell anyone that you would love him more than i love ha please~
BETWEEN, we had a quarrel this afternoon :( i didn't want that to be happened also. you were so sick~ TT hawwww~
This few days, i was so moody and you were trying to cheer me up, i knew it was hard at first but i really did not know what had happened to me myself D: i missed the moment we playing around and laughing around. not to be so serious. <3 iloveyou,youloveme,wearehappyfamily~^^ mwah!
.............................................
Maricar:
hi
6:50pmMe:
who is this?
6:50pmMaricar:
maricar and u
6:50pmMe:
?
6:50pmMaricar:
why ...
6:50pmMe:
do i know you?
6:51pmMaricar:
what do u think .....
6:51pmMe:
no ==
you know who m i?
6:52pmMaricar:
andy
6:52pmMe:
sorry, you are wrong ==
6:52pmMaricar:
why im wrong
6:54pmMe:
why do yo wan to look for him?
6:54pmMaricar:
yhap
6:55pmMe:
...
6:56pmMaricar:
why
6:56pmMe:
no why
because im his gf
6:56pmMaricar:
tlg....
6:56pmMe:
?.?
6:57pmMaricar:
why u did understand what im saying
6:58pmMe:
i did
6:59pmMaricar:
u did
6:59pmMe:
yes i did
6:59pmMaricar:
what did u mean u no
6:59pmMe:
yes, i know what did i mean
-.-
6:59pmMaricar:
really
7:00pmMe:
...
7:00pmMaricar:
i love your bf
7:01pmMe:
aww thanks for loving him
as a friend
7:01pmMaricar:
no
7:03pmMe:
-.-''
..............................................
wahaha! i love it! the conversation :P i felt so glad.teehee* you can love him as a friend(being forced), but never tell anyone that you would love him more than i love ha please~
BETWEEN, we had a quarrel this afternoon :( i didn't want that to be happened also. you were so sick~ TT hawwww~
This few days, i was so moody and you were trying to cheer me up, i knew it was hard at first but i really did not know what had happened to me myself D: i missed the moment we playing around and laughing around. not to be so serious. <3 iloveyou,youloveme,wearehappyfamily~^^ mwah!
Monday, May 17, 2010
gone mad??
i suppose. indeed. these few days i couldn't stop thinking of you. but it's alright, as you said that, it doesn't matter. (:
Friday, May 7, 2010
NOOOOO! T.T
As what you said, we are getting less time to be together. TT so why do you need to make such decision of leaving me after spm? =( you must carry out your promise with me okay??? ): you know, i scare that you might forget about me or people want to snatch you away from me! TT 8-10 months a my dear....8 to 10 days is enough to drive me gone mad you know?! )': you are my ONLY ONE! my TREASURE! dear, tell me, love could change your decision right?? T.T i wish it could. so that you will never never and never leave me here alone. i will be crying every every moment. i will be thinking of you all the time~ TT i know you are thinking of our future but you have to bring me along marh~ that's what we called couple right ): once you are gone, my life is bored, is blank... so please~never leave me! i love you dear! mwahhs~
i LOVE you the MOST!
my dear ah chung, do you know who can replace you? It is ah chung, andy ng aik tshong again. besides, do you know that who is that can make me cry badly? It is you, my lovely hubby again! you are just belong to me o dear~ never never try to run away from me. I angry because I want you to sayang me more, i can feel the sweetness^^ I moody because i dont want you to leave me alone. I cry because i want you to hug me tightly. I pretend to ask you to look for another girl is just to hear you say that you love me and never throw me away~ owh!how sweet it is! Dont take it serious to be getting angry/mad/moody with me my dear,I am afraid of it >.< i knew that once you hung up the phone, the first moment is still thinking of your lovely honey de..mwahh~ so i really enjoy it but i am trying my best to avoid as if you really get angry le. Actually the last call from you just now was suprising me! I wanted to ask you:"miss me le har? ><" but you hung up again. is okay~ (:at least i felt a lil happy le :P finally your voice turned out soft to me again.hehs. a sweet smile roughly appeared on my cheek. You know, once you talk to me softly, any bitterness, sadnesses...all gone! I am now longing the first message of you once you reached home will not be a "cold cold" one~ may my prayer comes true(: or else my ah chung sure wet wet again le(T.T). alriight~tik tok tik tok tik tokkkk.....waiting for my phone to vibrate(*dear text me)~
i just felt so alone=(
Please andy ng aik tshong, please my dear =(
I DID NOT LIE TO YOU! i kept on asking if i can skip the training la. =(
i also want to go out together with you ma.. how come you dont understand?=( hmm. You never believe what i say to you. ): it is now just a part of my life ma dear. If you still treat me as your beloved gf, just try to control your anger marh dear~=( it is too cruel to me onve you don bother me and pretend not to sayang me~ but i know you are still the one who love me much much~ (: i just hope that you could understand my feeling if i treat you like that too...='( the only fact that couldnt be changed is i love you the most! no one could replace you my dear~ MWAHHHSS~
I DID NOT LIE TO YOU! i kept on asking if i can skip the training la. =(
i also want to go out together with you ma.. how come you dont understand?=( hmm. You never believe what i say to you. ): it is now just a part of my life ma dear. If you still treat me as your beloved gf, just try to control your anger marh dear~=( it is too cruel to me onve you don bother me and pretend not to sayang me~ but i know you are still the one who love me much much~ (: i just hope that you could understand my feeling if i treat you like that too...='( the only fact that couldnt be changed is i love you the most! no one could replace you my dear~ MWAHHHSS~
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
do not go away from me :'(
"We had promised each other to study together after our SPM. i was so sad the moment u told me that you are going to leave me right after you got your SPM result. I do really hope that you will never go away from me ans so we will be able to stay together forever =( I would also get a heartache if i see you sacrifice for me. If you wait for me, you are going to waste a year, but why can't i just let go? :'( BECAUSE I CANT BEAR TO SEE YOU GO AWAY, I CANT BEAR TO LET OTHERS TO SHARE YOU! D': maybe it is just an excuse but i do really need you in my life... i will study hard so that i will not disappoint you..."
ANDY NG AIK TSHONG ~ the boy who i love deeply, the boy who i need in my life.. A strange starting point led us to be more happy and blessful. A message 'are you owen?' led us until today. =) i admired him at first i guess xP. Up to now, we still haven't realized how did we begin. do you, ah chung zai? xD he is a treasure for me =) we faced so so so many obstacles along the 1 and a half years. If i could turn the time back, i would not hurt him =( i know it does not make sense if i say i feel regret..."i promised i will try my best to be the best,trust me, can you?"........
ANDY NG AIK TSHONG ~ the boy who i love deeply, the boy who i need in my life.. A strange starting point led us to be more happy and blessful. A message 'are you owen?' led us until today. =) i admired him at first i guess xP. Up to now, we still haven't realized how did we begin. do you, ah chung zai? xD he is a treasure for me =) we faced so so so many obstacles along the 1 and a half years. If i could turn the time back, i would not hurt him =( i know it does not make sense if i say i feel regret..."i promised i will try my best to be the best,trust me, can you?"........
31/4/10 the late post of us
it was the last day of april in 2010. and it was the most meaningful day in the month of april! actually i get to have dinner wif my big family but there was no more seats for the rest so i followed my cousin to the spring to have our own dinner--KIM BAY~ i called my dear to come wif me and i waited for him while i was accompanying my cousin to look for little xuan xuan's clothes. once he reached, he wanted to hold my hand but i rejected him as the time wasnt suitable for us.(my aunty was there). and i wasnt used to it. we started to argue. i was so stubborn =( sorry my dear.muackksss! after that, i tried to hold hand and we were successfully solved the problem of myself.i got the feeling~ WHEE~ i was so shy actually. XS feeling warm as well^^ then we got home by using ah chung's papa's car. the terrible matter came to us again~hmm! it was traffic jam all along the spring's carpark. the time was 1030 something and mummy suddenly called me up to scold me for not being at home at that time.(i was so shocked also la mummy >,< i didnt know the time was late already e), the scene changed badly while we all kept quiet at the moment as he was worrying about me. he didnt want me to get scolded by mummy. in a nick of time, finally i had reached my sweet home. thank you so much, uncle!=) honestly, i was shivering like hell once i stepped into my home but luckily mummy had fallen asleep as it was quite late already. 11pm. >.
4/5/10 day of us
i woke up at 6.37 this morning. i hugged my ah chung tightly. rushed out from my sweet place as it was 7 something and it took 10 minutes to owen's school. after taking owen to school, mummy send me to khs to get my netball stuffs certified. once i reached the school, the assembly was still going on. i was looking for my dearest darling but i couldnt find him~ how sad D: and the worst was, i didnt even walk to his class to look for him.HMM! if only the time could turn back, i would rather be late to get home. ;( i am very sorry for going back home instead of looking for him as we had not been seeing each other for few days. i knew he wouldnt listen to my any reasons, i knew he wouldnt be forgiving me, i knew that i was feeling regret after all... i cant deny that was my fault. we had quarrel for so many times, if only you could forgive me, give me some more times and let us to be continued until the forever ends. i love you, hubby ah chung!
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